exposing cissexism w/o replicating it
TW: anti-christianity, cissexism, transphobia, violence, misogyny, drugs
tl;dr these systems AREN'T "natural and necessary" so in many ways rather than Fighting Against An Insurmountable Enemy, simply acting as if they are air degrades their authority More
I think the best way to expose w/o replicating is to naturalize "impossibilities" that are forcibly suppressed to bring "outliers / edge cases" and "abnormal (inhuman)"
when you naturalize smth like the way xianming for example is not particular about being a man or a woman and doesn't seem to have any interest in such things it crushes the idea that "ur relationship to genitalia MUST be the foundation of ur gender and sexuality"
xianming has a dick but doesn't seem to think it means or represents anything in particular and doesn't possess any special associations with it in terms of the common type of cissexist entitlement Or the type of anguish and despair trans femmes are "expected" to have
exposing without replicating is all about naturalizing "impossibilities" that break and contradict cissexist assumptions of heterosexist misogyny / genitalia as THE ONLY AND BEST possibility
my friend's pronouns are "whatever is most difficult" and I have a twist on my itch page with "any pronouns but the obvious"
cissexism is designed to make you believe there IS nothing except for (suffering under) the cissexist framework that posits itself as MORALLY RELIGIOUSLY LEGALLY SOCIALLY RIGHTFUL AND NECESSARY
so when you present other possibilities that are as natural as breathing it inherently contradicts and criticizes (and humiliates) the notion that "only dickmen and pussywomen are Natural/Normal/Human(e)" and everyone else MUST suffer
also, the Christian notion that "god/Jesus" any ruling figure /authority of heaven HAS to be a man (and A WHITE man, in the whitewashed west, even among Asian Christian churches)
like? ok, WHY does god have to be a man AND why must god be respected?
this game is extremely anti Christian and VERY dead critical of smth a queer white catho girl said to me
I can't even remember what it was now, but it was like isn't there god in everything? and my argument was like then if that is so, then "god was ALSO in the worst extremes of the violencers that crushed my soul into cocaine"
(but of course, the catholic argument is "that's not god, THAT'S the devil")
but what happens when i turn and violence the ppl who violenced me? then IM the devil, bc i can't be a saint or an innocent virginal victim (mary/a martyr), but the truth is that most violencers of a certain variety are also initially victims
cissexist systems are quite fragile and don't hold up under interrogation or questioning. the whole point is to expose contradictions and weaknesses in the most fundamental logic: gender is determined upon the first second of birth based off of infant genitalia and this determines the social caste of this child's entire life
ok, WHY?
why is this necessary? by simply opening up another possibility that's as natural as breathing and completely disregards disrespects and ignores what posits itself as "natural and necessary," you break down the foundation that such practices ARE "natural and necessary"
the cissexist framework requires a near absolute majority agreement of its natural authority dominance and respect to the point that even blurring the lines a little ("what pronouns make you the most uncomfortable to use for me? / what pronouns are obvious and why?") or things like xianming who has no particular interest regard or the least respect in how others desire/gender him as "an anomaly" and has no thoughts or any particular infliction about it in her own identity
like xianming's aggressive NON-RELATIONSHIP and exceedingly low priority to the point that xianming never deigns to explain it or even "what pronouns do u use" situation subtly provokes the way that you're socialized to treat gender as one of the "rules that dictate social caste"
tl;dr by showing other possibilities for the way the world can be entirely outside of the originating systems of harm, you inherently disintegrate the foundations of the systems that naturalize harm and present harm as morally/legally/socially just righteous and necessary
by NOT engaging and ignoring the systems that Forcibly Demand A (Damaging) Relationship and deliberately ignoring and spurning their authority by cultivating an interest in alternative systems or definitions outside the dominant power constructs, you expose that these systems AREN'T natural, and AREN'T necessary